Upfront Guy with memory issue..

So I got this (boilerplate) email yesterday on OkCupid..

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I logged in today and noticed that two messages seemed awfully familiar..

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Lo and behold, he FORGOT which girls he has already messaged!!!!!!!

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I wonder if his tactic actually works?!?!

Yours in snark,

LadySnarksalot

An open letter to anyone who has experienced sexual assault

Reblogged from canada.com:

I don't need to know you to believe you. I don't need to know what happened to you. I don't need to know how "severe" or "serious" it was, because we should take all sexual assault seriously. Period.

If someone doesn't take "no" for an answer, they are dangerous.

If they make you too afraid or uncomfortable to say "no" to them, or if they are too important to say "no" to, they are dangerous.

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An extremely important read. Please share!!!

Response from Kathy English, Public Editor for the Toronto Star regarding Rosie DiManno’s April 9th column

On April 9th, the Toronto Star published the column “Sexual assault case involving four female suspects a bizarre anomaly” by Rosie DiManno. It also included “Enquiring minds are eager to know what the heck befell a young man who was allegedly sexually assaulted by a group of women in downtown Toronto” at the beginning of the column.

Many Toronto Star readers were upset with the publishing of this callous, insensitive and victim-blaming column, and had contacted Kathy English, the Public Editor of the Toronto Star for an explanation. I also contacted her and she provided her (form letter) reply via email, and has given her permission for my publication of the explanation below. I have pasted her email without any further comment of my own:

Hi Heather:
Here is the response I sent out to readers who complained about DiManno’s column. I am not writing a column this week as I missed today’s deadline for Saturday publication but I expect I will explore issues related to opinion columns in a future column.
Best,
Kathy

I am writing in response to your concern about Rosie DiManno’s April 9 column on the alleged sexual assault on a young man by four women.

DiManno is an opinion columnist for the Toronto Star. Her column falls within her role as a popular columnist who expresses strong, often controversial, opinions that sometimes offend. Columnists at the Star are given wide latitude to express their opinions. But columnists always speak for themselves, not for the Toronto Star. Only editorials, which are published on the editorial page, express the views of the Star as an organization.

The Star believes in the widest possible expression of free speech, in line with Canada’s Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The Star’s policy manual states that: “Columnists and Op-Ed writers have wide latitude to express their own views in the Star, including views directly contrary to the Star’s editorial views, as long as they fall within the boundaries of good taste and the laws of libel.”

As public editor of the Star, it is outside the scope of my role to weigh in on whether the views of any opinion columnist are “fair” “appropriate” or “in good taste” While I as an individual, and the Star as institution, do not agree with every opinion expressed by columnists, in the Star and sometimes vehemently disagree with some columnist’s views on some subjects, I will always defend any opinion columnist’s freedom to express views some readers might find offensive
or even repugnant.

Taste is always a subjective matter and a judgment call for newsroom editors seeking to balance questions of sensitivity of subject matter with the imperative for free expression for opinion writers and the desire not to demand conformity from columnists. Certainly the best columnists often do enrage and offend. In doing so they can provoke public discussion of important issues – as this column certainly has. On that regard, I expect the Star will publish a selection of the opinions of readers who disagree with DiManno’s opinion and the manner in which she expressed her views.

I have now had opportunity to discuss your concerns with senior newsroom editors. They tell me they gave careful consideration to this column prior to its publication and believe that the column is fairly done and falls within the bounds of fair comment and the Star’s policy’s for columnists.

While I personally appreciate and understand your points about sexual assault and gender, I agree the column is in line with the Star’s policies and is indeed fair comment.


Best Regards,

Kathy English

Kathy English/Public Editor

Toronto Star/www.thestar.com

416-869-4950

What are these guys on OkCupid thinking? #onlinedatingfail

Guys? What exactly are you thinking about with these OkCupid profiles?

First, we will start with a meme: http://tumblr.knowyourmeme.com/post/1004447066/saxophone-horse-is-exactly-what-it-looks-like-a  (credit goes to Twitter for pointing out it was a meme)

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I also suspect that Chris Pine (star of the new “Star Trek” movies) probably isn’t using OkCupid…

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This guy is either really honest, trying to be funny, or watches way too many late-night infomercials..

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This was the actual photo supplied- I haven’t cropped it at all.

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I’m not even sure what the point of these entries are (those were the only photos supplied)?

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This gentleman has a fondness for tanks? (That’s also his complete profile bio shown below the tank photo).

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While I did crop out the top part of his face, this was the main photo used for this profile.  And he has some insight into women (highlighted in pink below):

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I can’t stop shaking my head…

Yours in snark,

Lady Snarksalot

"Lady" problems

Reblogged from Steph Guthrie:

On Friday a woman who I respected as a peer, despite our tendency to disagree on matters relating to feminism, wrote a piece for VICE disparaging forms of womanhood that she considers lesser (certainly less subversive) than her own. She goes as far as to suggest that those who don't line up with her standards of womanhood (in which the Woman's impulse when she is wronged or in danger is to destroy her oppressor) are not women at all, but "ladies" or even "girls".

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So very proud of Steph writing this rebuttal to the atrocious attack on Friday.

What should we call... "trolling"?

Reblogged from Steph Guthrie:

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There's a problem I've been encountering a lot in my travels as an internet feminist. Sometimes the presently available language for describing a phenomenon is wholly inadequate, and sometimes the consequences are harmful. The internet has been going through a bit of a popular-use growth spurt in the last several years, and a lot of things (governance, commerce, the legal system) are struggling to catch up.

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Everyone should read this piece. And harassing, hate speech and death threats should not be labelled as "trolling". It's not.

Innocent Until Proven Abusive

Reblogged from Steph Guthrie:

TRIGGER WARNING: discussions of domestic violence and the prosecution thereof.

Because there's never a dull moment in Toronto municipal politics, former baseball star and current Twitter phenom Jose Canseco recently announced his plan to run for Mayor of Toronto. Naturally this led many Torontonians (myself included) to compare Canseco to our current rodeo clown of a Mayor, Rob Ford. In addition to incoherent communication skills and policy platforms that don't concern themselves with basic math, the two men share multiple allegations of domestic violence (which, in Canseco's case, have been proven in court).

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Some great insight on a sensitive topic.